One of the things that I consistently say about healthy, positive relationships is that it takes two people with both of their feet in it to make it work. When one person is a solo thinker and the other person is thinking as a team and trying to make up for the other person not pulling their weight, it cannot work. Many people assume that if they feel a connection, the other person feels that same connection.
Many people assume that if they do the work of both parties in the relationship and love unconditionally without boundaries, that somehow they’ll reap the reward at some point in some sort of ‘cup runneth over and reciprocates eventually’ sort of fantasy.
The types of people that need you to have little or no boundaries and values in order to be with them assume that if you’re still there, that you are OK with doing things on their terms.
It’s also important to note that I come across an alarming number of people who believe themselves to be on the same page for the wrong reasons – they think because they have mindblowing sex, read highbrow books, and share the same political views that they’re on the same page. It doesn’t matter if you appear to share common interests if you’re not in the same relationship.
When you build your existence on another person and effectively have the sun rising and setting on them, it creates an unhealthy balance and puts a huge amount of pressure on the relationship and the other person because you have no personal security. Eventually, it catches up and you will find yourself exhausted and burnt out by giving to someone not giving back.
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